I don’t think many people can say that it is actually easy for them to admit that they are wrong. I’m pretty sure that we are semi programmed as human beings to want to be right, it’s the competitive side of us. However, as a woman, one thing I really do not understand about the male persona is the fact that no matter how lost men are… it seems they can never ask for directions. I admit this has driven me crazy in the past, and I can’t tell you how many times I have been in a car with a man and demanded to stop for directions after seeing the same building a million times, it usually happens that five minutes later they find the place we had been looking for without directions… But I always seem to look at it as five minutes of my life wasted.
However, it seems like the appropriate thing to start off with because you see the thing is if you actually stop and analyze the situation maybe I could have understood a bit more why things happened the way they did. Like it or not, society builds up men to be problem solvers. Lets face it… when we can’t open that jar of spaghetti it is always easier for someone stronger to open it and when we can’t reach that box on the top shelf we are always first, to ask someone tall to get it. Regardless of how minor or major the issue may be in everyday life often, we naturally look to these masculine traits to solve our problems and men know and accept this for the most part. Naturally, men have been programmed to be problem solvers. Not just for women, but for other men as well. They are simply natural helpers. However because of their need to “fix” things, admitting they are lost themselves is practically impossible!
The point I am trying to make, is if we would just try to understand each other, in relation to the rest of society, the pressures that are forced onto each, and that habits of how we tend to deal with everyday issues. We may not be able to understand everything, but perhaps we could see where they are coming from. Wouldn’t it be easier for us? Or would it just be less fun?
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Nice post! I know that as a woman I have been frustrated by my bf's unwillingness to ask for directions, but usually its me getting lost (i'm not from around here lol). But anyways your getting lost example brought up an interesting point.
ReplyDeleteYou said, "Like it or not society builds up men to be problem solvers." That is definitely right! But thats not the underlying problem. I think the problem is that men need to... well feel like men. We all hear about those women that cannot "keep" a man because she is "too independent" or "makes too much money" or something of the sort.
I am a firm believer that men need to be needed! Whether thats as big as "can you help me pay this phone bill", or as small as "can you help me open the jar of pickles?"