Whatever it is... I just give up!

It seems like in the past week, I have heard the phrase “I Give Up” one million times within my dorm. Everyone seems to be struggling and in turn ending their relationships, before October has even begun. It’s a problem that seems to grace both men and women… and in my opinion it is rather pointless.
I have this theory, which has honestly held partially true in the past few years in a college setting. People go away for the summer, and form relationships with whoever it may be. It doesn’t matter if it is a long distance relationship or with someone else on campus, they come back all happy and in love. Everything remains perfect for about two weeks. But then it happens. The stress of college and exams begin set in and everyone’s patience begins to run low. Those with long distance relationships begin to be strained because the person at home doesn’t seem to understand why they can’t come home, call them as much, or anything for that matter. Those who have someone here begin to be annoyed by the burden it has added to their everyday life and by September it becomes extremely complicated to maintain any glimmer of hope. However, it usually seems to continue on through September, but only gets worse. Couples end up fighting, getting frustrated, and almost ending it throughout September. They usually claim to “give up” multiple times before the month is over. Then in October, they all pretend that they never saw it coming and fall to pieces when the “tragic break-up” finally happens. They are devastated, more than they ever had been before, and don’t know what to do… for about a week.
Within three months they have simply given up, because it is too much, too hard, and just not worth their time. The part that I fail to understand is why is it that Americans seem to “Give Up” so easily. Why is it that when the going gets tough… we get out?
In the book “Men are from Mars Women are from Venus” John Gray argues that men are the ones who usually “give up” easier. But simply judging from my experience and my personal friend base it is completely equal. I have seen it from both sides, and I can not say that men or women are more likely to give up. I believe it is equal.
According to divorcerate.org the divorce rate in America is at a stunning 50% and seems to only be increasing. Which means that for every six marriages three are going to end due to couples giving up.
Call me old fashioned, I am only pro divorce under extenuating circumstance, if you are truly unhappy and there is no way things can work, then I could see when it would be logical. But, I think that often couples just get tired of trying to make it work and it becomes the easy answer. On the same website it got a bit more specific when its said According to enrichment journal on the divorce rate in America:
The divorce rate in America for first marriage is 41%. The divorce rate in America for second marriage is 60%The divorce rate in America for third marriage is 73%
Which means that, it seems to be a certain type of person that continues to give up, Claiming it does not work, when maybe it really is them. Although I grant that divorce is sometimes used as an easy out, I still maintain that it is the only out for some people. I realize that sometimes divorce is the best option for someone’s safety or sometimes sanity, in which case my criticism is not addressing you.
But whether it is a marriage, a relationship, or some crazy test next week… giving up is pointless. If you dedicated yourself to something in the first place at least give it a shot, a sincere and meaningful chance.

I'm Sorry

Writing this blog I’ve learned to see perspectives a little bit differently. It’s also forced me to talk to many men just to get their opinion on certain things; I may have looked at as flaws earlier. I never knew how real men really are, I never thought that maybe society puts burdens on them as well, and I never considered that they ever gave a crap about anyone’s approval. So, I’m sorry for ever thinking stereotypically, or assuming that all men were assholes just because I know a few actually are. I apologize for myself... and really all women who do that.

Why is it so hard?

I don’t think many people can say that it is actually easy for them to admit that they are wrong. I’m pretty sure that we are semi programmed as human beings to want to be right, it’s the competitive side of us. However, as a woman, one thing I really do not understand about the male persona is the fact that no matter how lost men are… it seems they can never ask for directions. I admit this has driven me crazy in the past, and I can’t tell you how many times I have been in a car with a man and demanded to stop for directions after seeing the same building a million times, it usually happens that five minutes later they find the place we had been looking for without directions… But I always seem to look at it as five minutes of my life wasted.
However, it seems like the appropriate thing to start off with because you see the thing is if you actually stop and analyze the situation maybe I could have understood a bit more why things happened the way they did. Like it or not, society builds up men to be problem solvers. Lets face it… when we can’t open that jar of spaghetti it is always easier for someone stronger to open it and when we can’t reach that box on the top shelf we are always first, to ask someone tall to get it. Regardless of how minor or major the issue may be in everyday life often, we naturally look to these masculine traits to solve our problems and men know and accept this for the most part. Naturally, men have been programmed to be problem solvers. Not just for women, but for other men as well. They are simply natural helpers. However because of their need to “fix” things, admitting they are lost themselves is practically impossible!
The point I am trying to make, is if we would just try to understand each other, in relation to the rest of society, the pressures that are forced onto each, and that habits of how we tend to deal with everyday issues. We may not be able to understand everything, but perhaps we could see where they are coming from. Wouldn’t it be easier for us? Or would it just be less fun?

This is me.. like it or not :-)

Hello fellow bloggers! I guess you can say that I am new to the blogging world. Although, I have commented on a few in the past, I have never fully decided to dedicate myself to one of my own. So here it is.
Currently, I am a student at the University of South Florida and I love it. I love going to the gym, going to the beach, and for that matter “going” just about anywhere. I spend most of my time socializing with my friends about random events that go on in our own lives. There is never a dull moment with those girls, which is nice. However, on a usual Friday night you are likely to find us ranting about the one thing that frustrates us the most… men. Now I know you are probably thinking, this is another “Men are stupid and I hate them” type of blog, but that is far from the truth. Growing up with brothers and quite a few male friends has left me semi-understanding of the male persona, however there are still aspects of the Y chromosome that I just don’t completely comprehend. However, like it or not we all have to agree on one thing, men and women are just… different. We think, act, and feel differently about almost anything and from either side, judging by the stories I have heard and experienced myself, it gets very frustrating. Whether it is the fact that women just can’t understand why men refuse to ask for directions or when men get annoyed that a woman tries on six different dresses before she decides to wear the one she originally had on. Given, not all women and men fall under the stereotypes I just listed, they are both common issues faced in the battle of the sexes. Truth is, it’s simply a communication gap, and we just can not comprehend what the “other side” has to say or is it that we just don’t really care to find out?